Check out this great article by Sherry Pollex explaining tips for women fighting cancer during her personal experience with stage three ovarian cancer .
You have so many reasons to feel sad, angry, frustrated and helpless – and I have no single answer to make it all go away. But I can tell you talking about it with your loved one helps so much. Here are my top 4 tips for any partner supporting a woman fighting cancer.
Don’t worry about being strong all the time
The nature of this sucky process is that you will each have your strong, positive, hopeful moments and you will each have your “life sucks, cancer sucks, everything sucks right now” moments. It’s totally natural to have these feelings. I cried when I needed to cry, felt sorry for myself some days and leaned on Martin or my family on the days I didn’t think I could make it another day.
Accept help from family and friends
Human nature tends to make men feel like they always have to have the solution to whatever problem comes up, but that’s not realistic. If researchers haven’t been able to cure cancer yet, then you’re not going to get it done this week, either. Don’t put pressure on yourself. The most important job you have is one of love and support. When family and friends ask how they can help, tell them. Put your energy into embracing their love and support of YOU.
Don’t freak out about the bills – but don’t ignore them, either
Cancer treatment is expensive and complicated. The stack of white paper that will begin to build on your kitchen table or desk will include bills with numbers you never thought you’d see next to your name. Keep everything and consider working with a patient advocate. These days, lots of larger companies offer services to help employees parse through bills and paperwork.